How Can I Help my Addicted Friend

How Can I Help my Addicted Friend

There are few things as frustrating or painful as seeing a friend or loved one suffering from an addiction to a drug such as hydrocodone. This terrible disorder seems to swallow people alive by changing their personality and causing them to continually do things that hurt themselves and everyone around them. You want to help, but you are afraid of damaging your relationship. On the other hand, you don’t want to fail as a friend by avoiding the issue or enabling it to deepen. You don’t know what to say or do. We can help.

Understand Addiction

One of the first things you should focus on is developing an understanding of the nature of addiction, how it works, and how it is treated. Although you certainly don’t need to become an expert in addiction treatment, it does help for you to understand what’s going on. This can best be accomplished through classes, individual counseling, or support group meetings such as Al Anon.

The following are just a handful of the truths about addiction to drugs such as hydrocodone that you should come to understand:

  • Addiction is a disease, not a choice
  • Some people are born with a biological predisposition to addiction
  • Addiction is both physiological and psychological in nature and only a comprehensive treatment plan will work
  • Addiction also affects friends and loved ones – whether they drink or use drugs or not (codependence)
  • Addiction doesn’t go away just because someone has quit drinking or drugging
  • Addiction recovery is a long-term lifestyle rather than a short-term process

We can connect you with treatment and counseling programs that offer programs like these.

Learn How to Talk About Addiction

Another important thing for you to do before confronting your addicted friend is to learn how to talk to him or her about your concerns. This may require significant education on your part. The addict will tend to be defensive, to shift blame to others, or to simply tune you out. Support groups can help you develop a vocabulary of recovery and to coach you on how to approach your friend or loved one. You will need to learn about codependency and enabling so that you can avoid those things. Once you fully understand what is going in your friend’s body and mind, we can help you prepare for what will likely be a very difficult conversation.

Confront Your Friend with Love and Concern

In some cases a full-blown intervention is called for. These are risky confrontations with a high degree of failure, but if you have tried everything else an intervention might be your best bet. Enlisting the help of a specially trained interventionist is key. These professionals can help you prepare for the confrontation and can teach you how to communicate your concerns effectively and within effective boundaries. The goal is for you to communicate your concerns with love and respect, and to avoid getting pulled into a codependent argument. This may be one of the most difficult conversations you ever have, but we can help you prepare for it.

Call For Backup

Before you take another step, you should definitely call for backup. Our toll-free helpline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We will answer all of your questions confidentially and with no strings attached. We’re here for you whenever you want to call. Why not right now?